Say the words “business networking” and what likely comes to mind? Well, if you have been involved in business for any time at all, you probably have a vision of a few dozen people in a hotel ballroom, all clutching business cards and hoping to make as many connections as possible.  It didn’t even matter if the connections were high-quality – the belief seemed to be that it was all about the quantity of business cards you were able to collect. Somehow “more business” was merely a matter of numbers.

But that really isn’t the way it works. If you approach networking in the typical way, your attitude is working against you.  You see, it’s not about YOU and how many connections YOU can make; successful networking is about what you can do for others.

“Wait, a minute,” you’re probably thinking at this point. “I’m networking to develop more connections for MY business; I’m not there to give someone else a boost.”

But that’s my point. Virtually everyone approaches networking from the “what’s in it for ME?” mindset. And, because most people take this approach, you’ll just be another one in a sea of “seekers.”  You’ll get lost in the noise.

Instead, consider a different way: put yourself in the shoes of the person with whom you want to network.  If someone approaches you with the attitude of selling you on something – even if you are being sold on them as a person or what they can do for you – you have a natural repelling reaction. We all do. We have an instinctive aversion to being sold. So, if someone approaches you, and they take the position of “let me tell you all about ME,” you’re less likely to listen.  If they lead off asking about you, what you do, how you came to be there, you’re more likely to engage in a discussion. Because they are asking about YOU, not just telling you about themselves.

How do we connect this with business networking? Well, if you think about what you have to offer someone or an organization, purely and simply, without pressing what YOU can get out of them, you have a much better chance of actually making a connection.

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